family?

adalah seorang hamba Allah nie call mengadu nasib tentang masalah keluarganya yang tak pernah aman. salah satu ayatnya, "kau lain la, family kau perfect, tak macam ktorg." pembetulan, family aku tak perfect, percayalah tiada satu pun family dalam dunia nie yang perfect. our family might seems perfect on the outside but the secret is we don't share our problems even with our extended family. we choose to sit down and talk out our problem most of the time. eventhough sometimes the problem is not resolved immediately but we get it solved by hook or by crook. i know it because i'm the problematic one in the family (middle child sindrom katanya) hehe. seriously, i'm one very thick headed girl who wants everything to be in  her way. in fact sometimes when i'm mad, sad, annoyed or frustrated, i would just silent or off my phone so that nobody can reach me. which most of the time causes worries to my parents most of the time. you could ask some of my bestfriends, my brother would go to the extend of contacting them if i'm out of reach. hehe. sorry mama ayah. i'm really glad that with all the tantrums i've throwed over the past 24 years, they're always forgiving and understand my mischieviousness. nasiblah mak bapak aku sanggup nak tahan perangai keras kepala tak nak dengar cakap aku kan. there's one thing that i've learned from my parents parenting style which is trust. my dad said this once to me, "ayah tau awak dah besar, dah boleh fikir baik buruk, so i trust you can make a wise decision for your life." heee. yes, my parents let me decide how i want to live my life. but with that being said, when such trust is put on you, whenever i feel like doing a bad thing, i'll always remember what my dad told me. he had put such trust on me, and i shall not betray that. so yeah, i'm a bit naughty but never over the limit.

another thing i've learned is that never spill your problem to outsider, especially on social media. because honestly, people who hear you out are either sincerely trying to help you, or would use that point to destroy you. so never give them the opportunity to destroy you. talking is good, but only talk to the people that you really trust and you believe would never spread or bad mouth about it to others. if you have a problem with a particular person, for god sake talk to that person. stop abusing the social media by bashing each other. internet is one dangerous world, once you post something it'll forever be there. and you know what's the funny thing, you guys are bashing each other on social media yet you guys are blocking each other. penyudahnya yang jadi penonton drama korg nie, akan bercerita pada org lain dgn versi yang ditokok tambah. maka bertambah lagi la salah faham dan masalah korg. so please people if you have problem, sit down and talk to each other. at least that's how our family do it, walaupun sometimes it takes awhile because sometimes we need a cooling period. yelah hati semua tengah panas, instead of hurting each other with words, better take some time to cool down before talking it out. we can never undo words after it being spoken, there's no delete button when it comes to blurting out words.

i really love the song by fynn jamal titled biar. it just hit me like dush dush dush. especially this part,

wahai ayahanda lihatlah 

aku melompat tinggi 

kerna disetiapnya kau tak pernah pergi

apa masih ingat lagi

aku suka lari lari

kau bagaikan tak peduli

ku biar kau patah hati

apa masih tidak lupa

tengking jerit sama2

makan tak mahu semeja

sahabat lebih berharga

i do have to admit, in fact most of us at our age tends to appreciate our friends presence way more than we appreciate our parents presence. which is a no no la. i know i've broke my parents hearts countless of time with my attitude but i sure am glad that di setiap jatuh dan bangunnya aku mereka sentiasa ada dibelakang utk membetulkan langkah aku. for that i'm very thankful. so i'm proud when people say that we have a perfect family, it may not be the perfect ideal family but they're my perfect imperfection. you dont get to choose who your family are, so make the best out of it. with all the problem we overcome, it makes the bond stronger, so don't sigh at problem, always remember that there's always a silver lining behind it all.

so to the kids, no matter how hurt you are, always remember how hard it was for them to raise you up. without them you'll never be where you are right now. if you're hurt, imagine how they felt. wouldn't they hurt too.

to the parents, please take some time to listen to your kids. dont just take them as a child. we do have our opinions and we want to be heard. 

ruginya la kita menghabiskan masa dengan perasaan benci dan marah pada satu sama lain bilamana ia sepatutnya digunakan utk kebersamaan. asas sesebuah ketamadunan dan masyarakat adalah keluarga, it's what the moral and lesson yang diterapkan dalam keluarga yang kita bawa ke dalam masyarakat. so for a better civilisation, let us strengthen our family bond and moral. 

last but not least, spread love not hatred.

signing out with love,

lalaqla